Loss can divide us, but it can also unite us, as we are seeing in the case of Debbie Reynolds and Carrie Fisher. Collectively we are trying to make sense of a large public loss that has affected many individually. Why? Because we invite film and the experience of it into our homes.
With that said, I believe Carrie was waiting for her mother on the other side of the very thin veil that separates the human form from the soul/spirit.
I think it is important to note however, that just because one parent dies soon after his/her child dies, does not mean that the parent loved his/her child more than any other parent who loses a child. I will write more on broken heart syndrome soon.
In the meantime, let’s all flood each other with kindness and understanding without platitudes or judgement. And yes, let’s be aware that the physical manifestation of grief can be traumatic stress on a body that is already undergoing stress due to age/health issues or other issues that we, the general public, may be unaware of.
Most important? Live now. Tell the people you love that you do indeed, love them. Park the phone and look these special souls in the eye — and say to him/her “Love you madly” or “So glad you’re in my life.” Plus, for gosh sakes resolve conflict with those important to you. Finish your unfinished business.
Why? Because as Debbie Reynolds and Carrie Fisher just proved, you never, ever know when you will take your last breath. The body may die, but love lasts.
Sending love to all of you,
Dianne Gray / @diannebgray (Twitter)
Grief / Communications, LIV ON